Thursday, December 2, 2010

Playtime...

My best friend, Shady Lady, and I had a play date today. Well, the kids had a play date, and she and I had a knitting date. I love these afternoons, as we really get a chance to talk... not just chit chat. We have actual meaningful conversations. I tell her things I don't tell anyone else (well, maybe my other best friend), and I know I will always be heard and understood.

We have known each other for 3 years now. During this time both of us grew immensely... often into opposite directions... and in some ways into the same direction. We often have to agree to disagree on certain subjects. And for the first time in my life I don't mind. I don't feel the need to convert her (not that that would work!!), I don't need to convince of how right I am. The simple fact is that it does not matter at all... because when it comes down to it... we do agree about the most important things in life. We just approach them differently. We love and respect each other for who we are, and we talk when we feel that something is wrong.

Today, during our play date we heard the children argue downstairs. Each in their own way. And it occurred to me that our children are learning already, at a very young age, to get past their differences. They may not agree about everything, but they will find a way to make it work. We never did have to get involved. They figured it out all by themselves. And this made me proud and happy, and relieved... knowing that in 20 years they will still be friends, good friends, who embrace each other's differences and will be richer and more open minded for having learned to live with them from a very early age. 

We do love you guys, Shady Lady and Princess...

3 comments:

  1. Okay. That's it. You made me cry. Again. I love you guys...and so does Princess.

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  2. This is a really great post. I can understand exactly what your talking about b/c I too spent a long time trying to "convert" others to my "side". I didn't realize I did that and lost a lot of relationships in the process. Thankfully we can learn and grow and there are folks who love us enough to stick around when we are bein turds. Been MIA for a bit momma, I'm sorry! But I'm here now. Looking forward to catching up reading your blog.

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