So I read a blog post this morning from a mom who has received a letter from her school, informing her, that soon her daughter's 4th grade class will have sex education. She seemed a little freaked out over it, and asked her readers for comments.
First I skipped the comments altogether, and wrote about my experience with Toothless Fairy, who wanted to know all about sex about a year ago. She had heard about it, she wanted to know, what happens, how it happens, and she wanted answers now. I gladly obliged. She and I drove to the library, checked out some books, and at home we sat down and talked about it. Very easy and pain free. She giggled a little, but generally just listened carefully. End of story.
Then I decided to read the comments on the other blog post after all and was astonished to see just how many moms were not only a little concerned, but found the topic of sex education so scary, that one wrote she was in tears and called her mom.
I was puzzled after reading all the "Oh my god, this is totally freaking me out" comments. I'm not sure why sex education is such a huge issue. If treated like any other subject, the child will learn where she came from, that billions of humans do it, and have done it since the beginning of time, and that they will have to do it someday if they want to procreate. My guess is that no 8 year old or 10 year old will run out, grab the next best boy or girl and try it. Sex education is like knowing math, absolutely vital.
Children are not dumb. They understand risks. I certainly knew what I was doing when I had my first time with my boyfriend at the tender age of 16. Yes, we used condoms, and I quickly got on the pill. This may seem preposterous for some, but it beats the heck out of teen pregnancy. ;-)
Treating sex like it is something dirty, unnatural, and something that has to be kept a secret, will result in children who will go out and explore without telling their parents, and without the proper precautions. Of course they will. Heck, MTV is doing an entire series on "16 and pregnant". You've seen them do all kinds of silly things as little kids, when you told them, they were not supposed to open that drawer, or they were not allowed to do this or that. Curiosity is powerful.
And to the lovely mommy who wrote the blog post, I hope you don't mind that I made this a subject on here. I purposely did not mention your name or blog. :) All will be well... and yes, I do recommend that you be the one to educate your daughter beforehand.